My dad got baptized to marry my mom back in the 1950's. Their first date was to a Kingdom Hall meeting (barf), he had to start studying with my grandfather in order to keep dating her. How did it turn out??? After about a year of marital bliss, he stopped going to meetings, began smoking again, and their married life was hell for 50 years. Six months before he died we talked about that, he was a sad man who regretted his decision....he said that he could die with a smile on his face knowing that I was out and never going back. I miss him so.
Coffee House Girl
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Unbelieving Mates or Dating "Worldlings"
by XBEHERE injust curious if anyone here is or knows of individuals who accepted "the truth" just so they could marry a jw.
how did it turn out?
i know of one case where a jw sister started dating a wordly man.
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How many JW pedofiles do you personally know?
by oldlightnewshite ini was just thinking that out of the 200 jws that i actually know, at least 4 of them to my knowledge are pedophiles.
i know for a fact, through personal confidences.
that means, as far as my circle of jovo friends/acquaintances goes, 2% of them are kiddy fiddlers.. without mentioning names or details, how many do you know of for a certainty to be pedos, and what percentage does it work out at, considering all your circle of jovo friends?.
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Coffee House Girl
Two that still serve in the congregation I attended (around 76 pubs when I was active in 2009), they are both on the state's sex offender registration website. Neither of them hold any positions in the cong, but they still are active witnesses who go out in service and attend cong "get togethers" where they can have open association with many young ones -
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How have you fared since leaving the Jehovah's Witnesses?
by God_Delusion inhowdy guys and gals!.
personally, my life has been fantastic.
it's like a massive weight has been lifted off of me, especially when it comes to having to go to the meetings.
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It will be 3 years since I left in August, and finally I feel like the JW drama has quieted. Yes, my family shuns me...but honestly, I don't miss them like I thought I would. I love college, I am a junior now and looking forward to hopefully an internship next summer. The friend thing is slow going, but I am introverted so making friends is just taking more time than it does for other people. I am happy and sleep easy every night. No regrets!
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I AM THE NEW MEETUP ORGANIZER FOR EX-JW's IN MICHIGAN
by AK MCGRATH inhi all you fellow michiganders.. i wanted to make you aware that the meetup site entitled, "ex-jehovah's witnesses of michigan" will not be disolved.
i decided since today was the last day before it would be no more, i should step up, and so i gladly did.. seeing that there has not been one meetup since it's inception, i plan to change that.
i know there is at least one person from here who is registered with our meetup.
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Coffee House Girl
OOh awesome, Lansing is much closer to me- & I am registered on the meetup site... I will try to make that one :)
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Flipper Jr. & Flipper Sr. Leave Child Abuse News Releases at Kingdom Halls
by flipper inof course everyone knows about the news of the candace conti child abuse case which has gone viral , ( one would have to live in a cave, under a rock, or another planet not to know about it ).
that being said - it may very well be that those jehovah's witnesses who do not use the internet, or read newspapers, or in simple english are neanderthal's, still living in the 19th century or before , out of fear of negative reprisal from wt authorities may have not even heard about this case because they are in the habit of not watching the news or using the internet.. so- with those particular type of people in mind my son flipper jr. & myself decided to print up about 20 copies of the candace conti child abuse lawsuit from the england daily mail issue , here's the link : http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2160605/candance-conti-molested-jehovahs-witnesses-member-age-nine-wins-28milion.html?ito=feeds-newsxml .. so what we did is since we are doing some out of town jobs in several counties we figured we'd leave these child abuse news releases under jw car windshields at kingdom halls while they are out in field service.
we left about 15 so far at 3 different kingdom halls under car windshields .
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Hey Flipper!! So nice to read that you and the Mrs. are still fighting to help us all . I posted a link to the artice on FB, did get to spread the "good news" to other DFd friends who aren't on JWN, but no feedback from JWs (all I really talk to is my mom and we do not speak about the WTBTS).
Please let us know if you get any positive results from this campaign!
Regards,
CHG and CSG
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A question specially for ladies ...
by Dudu indid you change the way you dress after leaving the wt?.
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Coffee House Girl
Ah I love dresses still...but not the stuffy conservative dresses w/ pantyhose that I used to wear at the hall, I love the "ladylike" or pin-up girl style with shorter 50's style dresses (I get a lot of them at modcloth.com). Oh, and I love shoes that show off my tattoo that is on the top of my foot. I agree with other posters that it is fun to shop and buy clothes that you like and not give one thought as to the possibility of "stumbling" someone.
Have fun reinventing yourself!
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{Sigh}, I could use a hug...
by Billy the Ex-Bethelite inmy first two exams were this week.
things didn't go well.
the classes are tough -- math and science.
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I don't get to check in here so much because classes are underway for me too...& sometimes I think about throwing in the towell and just getting a full time job to "get by"....but you and I are not quitters! Hang in there, the benefits far outweight the current frustrations...and I agree with everyone, when the fall simester starts back up it takes the first exams to really fall into line with what the profs expect from us- you will do better next time :)
hugs to you!
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My Father passed away during the night
by jwfacts indad was a great man, great, despite the religion.
he was powerful, tall and intelligent, yet humble and kind.
he was an introvert, and a circuit overseer.
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Sorry for your loss, take care, glad you got to make some peace with him
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Happily living life after the JWs. I didnt know it was possible.
by TimothyT inits the most perculiar thing.
i recall when i was in, i used to wonder how those disfellowshipped could live with themselves and thought that they must be the saddest and most depressed people on this earth.. how wrong i was.
now that im one of this disfellowshipped ones my life has improved dramaticaly and im happier than i ever was.
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Nice for the newbies to see your face and read that indeed...things can get better- you can control your life
-glad to hear that you are happy
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Suggestions for finally talking to my parents about my doubts?
by stillstuckcruz ini'll give my story again:.
i was raised a believing witness.
i had a normal life and very loving parents who would do anything for me and my brother(who is 21).
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Coffee House Girl
I am the girl who has been there, done that (exactly 2 years ago)-
I had to make a plan to exit...it took time, I was 30 and already living on my own- but I needed a plan:
a plan to get out and maintain my relationship with my mom- I mentally prepared myself for the fact that I would lose everyone, but I did not want to exit by being DF'd or DA myself- I still wanted a somewhat open door to speak to my parents. Thus I backed off meetings and field service....when others noticed that & my relationships with "worldly" people, the elders turned up the heat. I was VERY CAREFUL not to divulge any information that would get me DF'd for apostacy because I knew that having that specific label meant that my JW mom would shun me until her death. I still will not talk doctrine, and it has been two years since my exiting the JW cult. I also do not discuss my personal life with my JW mom (I now have a fiance who I live with), she does not visit me- this severely limits our relationship...but this is the best it can be for now.
I also needed a plan to further my education to get on the right track (I need a better job with security and benefits- I now am stuck in retail, but I am going to university to get a career and expand my mind.
I agree that you need to take some time, breathe, and make a strategic exit that you can live with-
best of luck to you...I am sorry you are under this turmoil now, I assure you that it does get better with time if you have the courage to free yourself-
CHG